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Magical Sigils by Fairuza Balk

Hallo again!

So, a few weeks ago I featured a wonderful Sigil artist here on the blog… and then to come find out that this artist I have been following has recently started creating her own sigils as well! They’re really very beautiful and I think you will find a lot of power in them. And you may remember her from her other artistic endeavors as well! Please check out her shop here: https://www.fairuza.org/store#!/Original-Drawings-by-Fairuza/c/21483891

A vertically symmetrical sigil composed of straight and curved lines seems to imply a primal version of horns, moons, and the sacred feminine
Healing Sigil by Fairuza Balk

 

PS – she doesn’t remember me, but we’re cousins! Haha!

Forming New Habits

11083787_10206421003263667_46459813757960255_oChanging your life, whether in a big way or a small way, is always amazing. It’s hard to tell where your life will end up as a result! But wherever you’re going, it’s sure to be amazing!

But how do you form a new habit? You just do the same thing over and over again for 21 days, right?

For one, 21 days can be hard, if that were even the right number.

For two, it’s just not that simple!

So, what can you do to form a new habit?

The first thing that needs to happen is that you need to Decide, with a big “D” that you’re going to change something. The big “D” means that you’re going to put it out to Universe that you’re putting your whole will into this and that you won’t take “no” for an answer! Deciding (with a big “D”) is the first step to any manifestation, and changing a new habit is just manifesting things in your own behavior. So you make an agreement with yourself and the Universe that things are going to change.

003-2-editedThe next thing you do is decide if this new habit is going to be a multi-step process (making a big change) or a single step process (making a small change). Deciding to eat healthy would be an example of a multi-step process, whereas flossing your teeth is a single step process.

The reason that this is important to know is because you’ll want to break down multi-step processes (or complex changes) into smaller parts and implement each one separately, building up to a big change. Effectively making each one a single-step process.

Once you have your single-step (and it’s a good idea to only change one habit at a time) process, you’re ready to get started!

Your single-step really has two steps. They are:

  • Create a reminder
  • Follow through

036-4-editedThat’s it! You repeat these steps over and over again until you automatically perform the new habit. For you, it may take 7 days or it could take 3 months – this depends on the person and is dependent on a million different variables, so only time will tell.

One single-step process I recommend immediately? Telling yourself “I love you” every time you see yourself in a mirror. You can write “I love you” on a note card and put it in your vanity mirror as your reminder. This will help boost self-esteem and self-confidence and you’ll be amazed at the changes you see!

Now get out there and create a better reality for yourself!

 

 

#Museday Photo Scavenger Hunt is here!!!

Photo by: LoggaWiggler @ Pixabay
Photo by: LoggaWiggler @ Pixabay

Hello and welcome to the #Museday Photo Scavenger Hunt! We’re kicking off today with a list of fun things to photograph regardless of what your weather is like. Some items will be SUPER easy and some of them will be a little bit more difficult – but the fun is in the finding – and the snapping of the picture!

Please feel free to upload your photos to Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr with the hashtag #Museday – my friend, Deanna Lohnes, and I will be watching out all day for our favorites and sharing them as well!

In addition to the #Museday Photo Scavenger Hunt, please participate in exploring your creativity with the help of the nine Muses as well by joining in our weekend of activities! And remember that the most important part is that you HAVE FUN!!!!

Ready, set…. go!!!

Photo Scavenger Hunt

Take a picture of:

  1. Something orange
  2. A person wearing green
  3. A living green plant  (no dead trees or cut flowers)
  4. A child under 10
  5. Water (not frozen)
  6. Christmas lights that are still up
  7. License plate ending in “y”
  8. A big hat (extra point for a selfie in it)
  9. A picture of Pizza
  10. A gemstone
  11. Someone named “Mike”
  12. A red door

Deanna Lohnes – Getting a Leg Up

Deanna Lohnes
Deanna Lohnes

Wow! I had an INCREDIBLE call last night with Deanna Lohnes – we covered all sorts of things about how to garner more assertiveness and confidence in the workplace. We covered things like:

  • What your bra has to do with your confidence
  • Power Poses
  • Breathing right
  • The unconscious “cod-piece” women tend to wear when presenting.

If you missed the talk, never fear! There’s a recording! Here it is for your listening enjoyment. And if you want to give a shout out to Deanna, please do! You can reach her at http://www.DeannaLohnes.com.

Amy Cuddy Speaks About Power Posing

Hey, everybody! So, in my call “Empowering Women” I talked about an article I read on Buffer about using power poses to increase your confidence. Here’s the article: 

A friend of mine messaged me (Autumn Bradley O’Rell), and, after talking for a little bit, she asked me if I was familiar with Amy Cuddy’s TEDTalk. Of course, I wasn’t, so she was kind enough to send me the link. Yeah, the Buffer article TOTALLY pulled from this TEDTalk (same photos!). So, here it is for your enjoyment – it’s pretty incredible!

5 Quick Tips to Improve Your Confidence

Photo by: Gilmanshin @ Pixabay
Photo by: Gilmanshin @ Pixabay

I’ve been talking about self-esteem, self-confidence, and assertiveness a LOT lately – and will keep talking about it! But I thought I’d give you a list of quick tips to help improve your confidence and assertiveness. These should be pretty simple to do, but if you have any questions, just ask!

1. Practice Good Posture

That’s right! Good posture is associated with the production of testosterone (hey, ladies need it too!), which is a big contributor to self-confidence and assertiveness! This will also open up your chakras so that the energy flows through all your centers better – especially the heart and throat chakra which are so often blocked. So, the biggest posture corrections include the following:

  • Roll your shoulders back and down – most people hunch their shoulders forward and in, creating a curved back. Roll your shoulders back and down, slightly squeezing the shoulder blades together.
  • Tilt your chin upwards so it’s parallel to the ground – most people look slightly downward (or more than slightly!). Practice looking upwards instead. Looking upwards stimulates creativity and projects confidence. Also, you should not be looking down at your computer monitor – that’s bad ergonomic! Raise it up so its eye level!
  • Rest your weight equally on both feet – we tend to shift our weight to one side or the other. Not only can this cause hip and back issues over a long period of time, but it also makes us appear uncertain and submissive. Plant your feet firmly and evenly on the ground – even when you’re sitting! If you need one, get a footrest for under your desk.

2. Breath Deeply

Practicing taking a longer and deeper natural breath. We tend to breath shallowly and shortly as a habit (partially caused by our collapsed postures), which leaves us slightly oxygen deprived most the time! Yikes! So, start taking deeper and longer breaths! Do this whenever you need to feel more confident and assertive – not only does your brain appreciate the increased oxygen, calming you down and making you think more clearly, but it also deepens your voice, which fosters more trust and authority in your listeners. Also, if you have a tenancy to speak quickly, SLOW DOWN! Slower speech also fosters more confidence!

3. Make a List of Positive Attributes

Photo by: GLady @ Pixabay
Photo by: GLady @ Pixabay

We can program ourselves pretty easily just by repetitions of thought. So, if you want to foster certain attributes in yourself, all you have to do is write it out and place it somewhere you will see frequently, like your bathroom mirror or your cell phone. Try “I am confident and assertive,” “I am worthy of respect and authority,” or “I love myself and excel in all that I do.” Or feel free to come up with your own affirmations!

4. Decide on Your Absolute No’s

There are just some things you don’t want to do, don’t like to do, and don’t need to do. These are things that twist your stomach and make you escape to the world of Facebook for hours upon hours. Brainstorm ways that you can remove these items from your life. Delegate to someone else, hire someone to do it for you, remove it from your priorities altogether, or change your expectations. Make a list of these “absolute no’s” and place it somewhere you can refer to it often.

5. Center Your Energy Body

You have several energy field around your physical body, including your energy body. This is where your prana is stored in space. When your energy body is centered on your physical body, you feel energized, optimistic, confident, assertive, creative, and capable. When it comes too far forward, you feel manic, hyper, distractable, unfocused, disorganized, and irritable. When your energy body is too far back, you feel depressed, submissive, weak, lethargic, pessimistic, stymied, and unmotivated. Most of us have our energy bodies too far behind us. Take a couple moments to take some deep breaths and feel where the center of your being is. You SHOULD feel it just behind and a little above your belly button, in your Solar Plexus Chakra. If you don’t feel it there, mentally, using your strength of will, pull your center into your Solar Plexus Chakra. After you’re done, take some more deep breaths and continue on your day. Repeat as necessary!

There you have it!

Those are some quick tips to improve your self-esteem, self-confidence, and assertiveness. Let me know how these worked for you! And if you have your own tips, feel free to share them in the comments!

Charlene Sig - green

Announcing: Museday! February 14th-15th!

Photo by: leovalente @ Pixabay
Photo by: leovalente @ Pixabay

So, it’s no secret that my fiance and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s day. We really believe that romance and love should be celebrated all year round and that we shouldn’t need special reminders to do a special something for the people in our lives.

However, I realize that a lot of people out there are emotionally invested in Valentine’s Day and whether or not you want to celebrate, there’s a lot of pressure to do something special, regardless of what it is.

In talking to my good friend Deanna Lohnes, we decided that we should offer an alternative to Valentine’s day – but not the usual self love stuff that amounts to doing what you’d do normally on a Valentine’s day, just without the date. So we thought, why not get in touch with your creativity? And, hence, Museday was born!

In addition, we’re going to release a photo scavenger hunt on the morning of February 14th – take a photo and upload it to Facebook or Instagram and use the hashtag #Museday!

We suggest that on the weekend of February 14-15th, you celebrate your creativity by doing one activity for each of the nine muses. Here are our suggestions:

Erato

Photo by: Ben_Kerckx @ Pixabay
Photo by: Ben_Kerckx @ Pixabay

Listen to a classical composition and REALLY listen to it. Don’t surf the web, don’t read a book, don’t do your nails, don’t watch TV, don’t do anything else but just LISTEN (okay, maybe you can pet your furry friend, but that’s it!). People just don’t seem to have the attention span to get through the classics anymore, and most of us can only identify bits and pieces of a composition. So, expand your horizons or listen to an old favorite, but just take the time to listen. Here are some of our favorites:

Flight of the Valkyries: http://youtu.be/3YOYlgvI1uE
Night on Bald Mountain: http://youtu.be/iCEDfZgDPS8
Waltz of the Flowers: http://youtu.be/QxHkLdQy5f0

Melpomene

Sing one of your favorite song OUTLOUD and PROUD! About four minutes of happy fun! If you have to climb into the shower or car in order to this, go right ahead! We won’t judge! Extra points if you sing with a friend! Here are some of our favorites:

Bohemian Rhapsody: http://youtu.be/fJ9rUzIMcZQ
Freebird: http://youtu.be/np0solnL1XY
What Does the Fox Say? http://youtu.be/jofNR_WkoCE

Kalliope

Photo by: Karla31 @ Pixabay
Photo by: Karla31 @ Pixabay

Listen to your favorite poem recited out loud. Does NOT have to be a love poem! Recite it out loud yourself or get together with friends for this one! Discover some new favorites this way! Here are some of our favorites:

Daffodils, by William Wordsworth: http://youtu.be/EK9UWpYuZiE
Somewhere There is a Poem, by Gina Loring: http://youtu.be/mmCxC0RnzQM
Dance, Monkeys, Dance, by Ernest Cline: http://youtu.be/O5vmHjJ7LYE

Ourania

Find and identify a constellation! Just look at that night sky! Of course, we’re all partial to Orion, one of the easiest constellations to identify. You can find him, or you can learn to identify a new constellation! Try this site for help: http://stardate.org/nightsky/constellations

Polymnia

Photo by: Teerasuwat @ Pixabay
Photo by: Teerasuwat @ Pixabay

Try out a church service that you’ve never tried out before! Don’t worry, there are some non-denominational services out there, and even some secular ones as well! Of course, visiting a church service that is different from your own beliefs can be gratifying, too. Check out:

http://www.uua.org/
http://sundayassembly.com/

Terpsichore

Dance it out, my friends! Get wild with yourself and break a sweat! Shake it, shake it, shake it – you can even break it if you really want! Just feel that stress melting away! Here are some of our favorites:

Macarena: http://youtu.be/XiBYM6g8Tck
Just Dance (cover): http://youtu.be/AHLBpmlc7zY
Poker Face: http://youtu.be/bESGLojNYSo

Thaleia

Photo by: LoggaWiggler @ Pixabay
Photo by: LoggaWiggler @ Pixabay

Take an artistic picture of a blooming plant. That’s right! Flowers! In the middle of winter! If you’re buried under snow, indoor plants will do. (Hint: try Home Depot or Lowes)

Cleio

Pick a famous person, living or dead, and create an art piece representing what an afternoon with them would be like. Stuck for ideas? Try a painting, collage, wordle, Pinterest Board, photograph, or anything else you like! DOESN’T have to be visual – if you prefer a poem or music, absolutely go for it!

Euterpe

Do something “childish”! Embrace that inner child fighting to be free and get silly! Jump rope, blow bubble, finger paint, color (outside the lines?), cats cradle, spin in circle, play tag, catch snowflakes on your tongue – whatever you like! You get points for every activity you do! Go for it!

Points

Photo by: foto-horst @ Pixabay
Photo by: foto-horst @ Pixabay

I’ve mentioned points a few times. What are they? Well, you get 1 point for each activity you engage in, and bonus points as noted. You also get bonus points for any associated pictures you post online with the tag #Museday. At the end of the day, compare your point totals with your friends. Whoever wins gets a special prize! -OR- The points are made up and the prizes are imaginary. Your choice how you want to play the game!

#Museday

Remember to use the hashtag #Museday for your updates on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter! We’ll be sharing our favorites somehow (we’ll figure that out later).

Have fun everybody!

Charlene Sig - green

Getting a Leg Up in the Workplace – Without Baring Your Legs! – February 11th at 6:00 Mountain Time

Deanna
Deanna

Hey, everybody!

I’m so excited to tell you that my last teleseminar sparked a lot of ideas for my friend, Deanna. She has extensive experience in Human Resources and is very familiar with work place relationships, how gender plays a role, and how to handle harassment. She has agreed to allow me to interview her on February 11th at 6:00pm Mountain time (8:00pm Eastern, 5:00pm Pacific).

During out discussion of what we should cover in the interview, Deanna had all sorts of tips to cover, including what you should do about your body language, what kinds of words you should eliminate from your vocabulary, and huge mistakes women make when doing presentations – either to a large audience or just around the conference table.

Even if you don’t work in a large office, this interview is for you! This will help your interpersonal relationships, whether  you work primarily with men, women, or a mixture of both. These tips will get you presenting yourself as more confident, assertive, and in control. Some of them will even help you FEEL more confident and in control!

This is a FREE call, all I ask is that if you want to be on the call live to ask your questions, you sign up on my mailing list in the box to the right. Call details will  be going out to my list on Tuesday. Even if you don’t sign up and aren’t able to make the call live, the recording (just like the last one) will be available to listen to for free on my website.

We look forward to chatting with you on Wednesday!

Charlene Sig - green

Empowering Women

Charlene
Charlene

Women NEED to be more assertive, confident, and have better self-esteem – not just for ourselves, but for future generations of women that are growing up. We lead by example, so we need to be the best examples that we can be.

To this end, I’m focusing my services on helping women overcome those barriers – low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, meekness, and passivity – so they can achieve more of their dreams. To help achieve this goal, I did a teleseminar on how women are taught to be meek and submissive by our culture, how our culture treats us and the messages we receive, and some steps that we can take to be more confident and self assured. To read more about the calls, click here!

If you’re interested in digging deeper and examining the deep rooted experiences that have caused you to “lose your voice” and be more meek and timid than  you want to be, I also offering a 3 month coaching program. During this program, we examine the ingrained beliefs that you have and replace them with more positive beliefs as well as discuss ways you can shine your light even brighter. Click here for more information!

For your listening pleasure, here is the call recording!

Guest Post: Lessons in Love from the Tarot: 3 Cards that Will Change the Way You Look at Love

By: Angela Kaufman, Certified Professional Tarot Reader, LCSW.
Have you ever found yourself confused over how much to “give in” to others in relationships? Perhaps your life is going along as planned until a new romance develops, and you slowly find yourself chipping away at your dreams to accommodate your partner. Do you get stumped when it comes to compromise, fearing that loss of control will ensue if you let your partner get too close? I have helped women understand their love traps through psychic Tarot readings, and here are a few of the major lessons I have learned from my own experience and through years of psychic readings for others.

A Lesson from the Lovers

The Lovers from the Shadowscapes Tarot
The Lovers from the Shadowscapes Tarot

The Lover’s card teaches us that true love is about maintaining the balance between individual and couple. This takes ongoing care and mindfulness even in the best scenarios. Modern women have been taught to compete in a man’s world by working harder just to keep up. We have broken through barriers in many ways, but when it comes to relationships and family, many women have traded traditional roles of caretaking and nurturing, for a liberated role of managing, leading, succeeding….and caretaking and nurturing. We haven’t walked out of the home for the workplace, we have taken on dual careers of nurturer and earner. Numerous Tarot readings that I have done for women exploring relationships have elicited common and patterns that undermine relationships as well as the attitudes, beliefs and fears that accompany them. A common habit of successful, independent women, is the tendency to nurture others’ needs while not nurturing herself. Whether this is a byproduct of the instinct to nurture, the fear of being responsible for others, or even the drive to demonstrate equality to men (work harder to break even in many cases) the end result is often the same. Women take on their share of the relationship, and more, which can alter the energy of both the relationship, and the individuals comprising it. Therefore the lesson of the Lovers’ Card becomes distorted, and instead of honoring individuality and uniting in love, fear becomes the cement that holds the relationship together….for a while.

A Lesson from the Tower

The Tower from the Shadowscapes Tarot Deck
The Tower from the Shadowscapes Tarot Deck

The Tower is the catalyst for dramatic change, often in the form of crisis. It is our change agent and liberator. If you are stuck in relationships and can’t seem to make progress in your search for love, perhaps it is time to break free from the stereotype of what you envision true love has to look like. The Tower helps us to break free from our own mental prisons, but the process of liberation is often a dramatic one. Abrupt and unexpected change can make it feel like you are losing control, but surrendering to the process can also awaken you to new, better opportunities. So many women have come to me for readings feeling devastated because what they believed to be their “last chance” at love did not work out. They blame themselves, question whether they are doomed to be alone, or even if they are cursed. Rather than focusing on the negative, it is important to remember the growing process is at work and look toward the future with greater wisdom having loved and lost. After all, how many times in the past has a loss felt like the end of the world, only to truly bring the dawning of a new, better day?
So much has changed over the centuries, and we ladies inhabit a very different world from our grandmothers, mothers, or even our older sisters! Average life expectancy has doubled, the definition of romantic partnership has become more eclectic, and individuals have never had such role flexibility and opportunities for expression of their desires. Social Media has made it easier to meet people, but harder to connect. We ladies have more confidence to reach an unlimited potential, but still feel responsible for others. Still we have clung tightly to the concept of romantic partnerships as a limited opportunity, a going out of business sale that no one wants to miss. It is for this reason that I refer to myself as a “21st Century Relationship Psychic”. My services focus on bringing harmony and healing to women navigating the complex world of love and relationships without the self limiting stereotype of what a relationship “should” look like.

A Lesson from the Hanged Man

The Hanged Man from the Shadowscapes Tarot Deck
The Hanged Man from the Shadowscapes Tarot Deck

The Hanged Man teaches power through acceptance and introspection. Perhaps you have had numerous relationships in the past that all seem to flat line around the same issues. Maybe you moved on from one relationship swearing off the drama that went with that person, only to find yourself in a new relationship with a new person and repeating the same old mistakes, heartaches and problems you thought were history. These are Hanged Man moments, things aren’t going your way, and trying harder doesn’t seem to change anything. It is because you are trying to move on and make improvements with the same old roles, rules, and tools that didn’t work last time. In recovery circles this would be called “insanity; doing the same things over and over and expecting different results”. In relationships this habit can haunt women for a lifetime. The Hanged Man’s lesson is to suspend action, spend time searching within, and arrive at a different perspective. By hanging upside down he is unable to move, but able to see the world from a different angle. If your love life feels like “Groundhog’s Day” perhaps it is time to stop, evaluate, listen, let go and look at things from a different point of view.
If you are open to guidance for your own growth and development, or curious about the best ways to nurture a relationship, if doubts from the past or continued patterns of sabotage follow you from relationship to relationship, visit http://moonlighttarotllc.com/free-report/ and sign up for my free audio program, 3 Biggest Reasons Independent Professional Women are NOT Finding the Love They Want.

Moonlight Tarot LLC is also excited to announce a new one of a kind, Psychic Relationship Coaching Program designed specifically for independent single, professional women who are ready to let go of the past and awaken love in the future. This service will be available to the public in winter of 2014. Contact me at Trionfi78@gmail.com for details and to reserve a spot as enrollment is limited.

 

Angela Kaufman
Angela Kaufman

Angela Kaufman is your 21st Century Relationship Psychic. She has devoted many years to study of spiritual and personal development and is credentialed as a Social Worker, Tarot Reader, Intuitive Consultant, Psychic Medium, Reiki Practitioner and Ordained Minister.

Angela uses her connection to Spirit to empower modern women. She wants to help you stop the vicious cycle of dead end relationships with a free gift The 3 Biggest Reasons Single, Professional, Independent Women are NOT Finding the Love They Want at moonlighttarotllc.com/free-report/