I posted something about this about a week ago in my private Facebook group, but I’m thinking that the topic is bigger than that.
Something I’ve been seeing a lot of in my spirituality group and spiritual business groups is something very much like a persecution complex.
While a certain amount of drama and ego is normal in the spiritual community (since it’s made up of humans being), this is reaching a level normally more associated with narcissists, master manipulators, and aggressive psychic leeches. That IS uncommon. While the spiritual community IS made of humans being, these humans usually consider themselves compassionate, open-hearted, and empathic. As such, they aren’t USUALLY given to wild conspiracy theories and such pervasive paranoia.
I’ve bee slowly withdrawing from my groups as a result, because my gentle suggestions of “hey, I’m sure there’s a reasonable explanation” and “I’m sure this is just a miscommunication” and “that seems a bit elaborate to me” have been met with hostility rather than relief.
I am not BLAMING anyone for this and if it were one person, or a few, or a dozen, I wouldn’t mention it. But I get around the internet a lot and seems to be becoming pretty common. And I’ve been in the new age/spiritual/pagan community since I was young tyke at my mother’s hip, so I have a pretty reliable idea of what’s “normal.”
If this is you, or you think it might be you, there are some things you can do. First – no shame here. Something pervasive like this means that if you/we are involved, we’re probably picking up on some kind of group/community vibe or something and being carried along. But that doesn’t let us off the hook because now that we’re aware of what’s going on, if we have accepted the responsibilities that come with being a leader, healer, guide, , etc. than it is on us to start reversing this energy.
That is a simple process. Don’t just deny your feelings straight away – that is not something I would suggest. But DO take a moment to get in touch with them and explore where they’re coming from and what they’re connected to. Exploring their roots will help reveal where they’re coming from and whether or not you’re picking up on something genuinely concerning about the situation or if you’re tapping into a general vibe in the air or community. Then, if appropriate, counter that feeling with something healthier – compassion, security, safety, happiness, calmness, joy… whatever you feel is most needed in that moment.
Second, insert a momentarily pause between feeling and reaction just to give you a second to think about if you really want to follow the path you’re on. This is a good policy for life (if you ask me, which you didn’t) because this way you can always make sure that your thinking-brain supports your actions. Regret is a terrible emotion and I do whatever I can to avoid it, and this is one of those things. That split second of checking in with myself gives me the chance to reevaluate the situation before blowing things up. You may not know it, but I can be quite destructive.
Lastly, treat yourself with extra gentleness. Regardless of where it’s coming from, we’re all probably feeling extra vulnerable right now. Instead of being rigid and mean to yourself about it, be compassionate and understand. Compassion starts at home!
I’m curious to hear if any of you out there are seeing this too and if so, where you think it’s coming from.
So, yeah – I’m REALLY into this whole video thing, as you may have noticed.
I LOVE my tarot and other spiritual/healing work clients SO MUCH and love the work that I do with them. Sure, there are some weirdnesses in the biz, but, you know, there are REASONS. But I also love my other workers out there who are trying to helps our beloved clients. So I’m starting a new series of videos that are just for the professionals out there! And there are two new videos to start things off!
These videos are going STRAIGHT to my Patreon patrons first who get to see them right away! The rest of the world has to wait a week or so (I might make this longer in the future) AND patrons get to help me choose upcoming topics, so they aren’t necessarily just going to be about whatever makes me feel ranty. LOL So if you want in on that, head over to my Patreon account: http://www.patreon.com/educatedavage
But! Today is the day the first two videos go live on my YouTube channel! If you haven’t seen it, there’s a TON of stuff over there! I’ve been publishing videos for about 10 years, pretty irregularly, but you should still check it out. Here they are:
So, even though I haven’t found an apartment in beautiful Fresno, California yet (I know, I know, I don’t get it either, but Fresno IS beautiful), I AM able to record videos for you! So, I’ve got two new ones uploaded for you and ready to check out!
The first one is about Moon Magick is about the moon phases, what they mean, and what they’re good for and I also talk briefly how essential they are to your magical practices – along with all the other traditions and tools that are out there. Here it is!
The second is a video about how to tell if you are a natural born psychic and/or witch or if your abilities are god-given and my whole pile of feelings on that topic. I’ll warn you: there MIGHT be some ranting.
In addition! I have a new Patreon account! Errrrr… actually, I just revamped my old Patreon account. One of the things I’m going to do is I’m going to release my videos aimed at psychic readers and professional spiritual practitioners over there a week before releasing them here on YouTube and also host more in-depth and personal discussions over there. So, if you want in, click the thingy and do the supporting thing! 😀 I hope to see you there! As always, I don’t know what I’m doing, but we’ll figure it out and have fun in the process! Linkie is: http://www.patreon.com/EducatedSavage
I know I’ve been pretty quiet lately and I apologize for that. I had SO many plans, but this move is taking WAY longer than I anticipated! The apartment we were guaranteed to get fell through, so we are STILL looking for a place here in Fresno and that is occupying all my time. But, I DID take a little bit of time to record this “fun” video for you that I was inspired to finally do by my friend, Christina Quick of Make Tarot Your Business, before I even left Arizona.
So, this video is about my personal reading style. This style was developed from learning from my mother, who was an AMAZING tarot reader (and includes a spread I learned from her) and then honed and modified by myself when I started reading online on Kasamba and Keen. Thus, the emphasis is efficiency, flexibility, and accuracy. Of course, everyone develops their OWN personal style, so I don’t expect anyone to conform to my exactly, but, instead, to try out what I’m doing and then use it as inspiration, combine it with what they’re doing, use it as inspiration for their own ideas, or ditch it because it just doesn’t work for them. In any case, I hope you find it interesting. As always, there is rambling – but I’m sure you’re used to that by now.
Pull up a pillow and some refreshments and let’s catch up!
So… yes! The last time we spoke, I was getting ready to head to Readerfest! That was a crazy time….. For anyone who DID go to Readerfest and who did not see on social media that I was NOT going to make it, I apologize for not being there.
There were some personal issues, unrelated to me, and, as a result, I was no longer desired to attend Readerfest and asked not to come after all (though I was already 17 hours into my trip). As it so happened, I was spending the night at a friend’s house in Fresno at the time, and it all worked out very well!
In fact, my hunny and I were in the middle of trying to decide where in California we wanted to move to, and I was able to see for myself that Fresno ticked all of our boxes – his, hers, and ours!
So, exactly a month later, we packed ourselves and our kitties into a rental car and drove to California to find a new home to live in! We’ve been here for about a week now and are still looking for a place (the place we were told was a sure bet turned out to not rent to non-California residents). But, it is absolutely gorgeous now! And while my hunny is crazy stressed, things are actually pretty lovely!
The most AMAZING thing so far that both my hunny and I are somewhat fixated on is not the cooler weather, the bigger city, the excessive resources, the crazy number of people, the ridiculous cost of everything, but, instead… the TREES! Y’all won’t be surprised to hear that (see Grandmother Tree), but my friends in California are.
The lack of trees in the desert does not immediately strike one, but after several years, it becomes this “splinter in your mind” – and it makes you a little crazy after awhile.
If you’re around abouts near Fresno, keep your eyes out for me or shoot me a message and lets hang out – and keep your ears open because things are about to get very fun!
Hallo my friends! I am SO sorry for the short notice here! I have fallen a bit behind – and, as you can see, there’s a slight adjustment going on around here appearance-wise. Not a real redesign, just a features upgrade.
Anyways! If you’ve been following me on Facebook or Twitter, you know that I am going to Seattle, Washington this week! I am the Program Manager for a FREE and FAMILY FRIENDLY event coming up called Readerfest happening this weekend on September 9th, 2017! I will be announcing, working, and performing at the event, so please come by, check it out, and say hi! It is, again, FAMILY FRIENDLY and FREE down at Magnusson Park! For more information, check out http://www.Readerfest.com!
As you know, we have a special place in our hearts and souls for trees here at CrowSong Lodge. There are so many wonderful and wondrous things we could say about them and if you’d like to hear some, you can visit our very own Grandmother.
Treehugger (unsurprisingly, a favorite site of ours), posted this beautiful article about the 15 Most Remarkable Trees in America. Some truly beautiful stories and some wonderful trees inside – and tales that go back 80,000 years or more!
So, I’ve been browsing around the community and I see that a lot of people are very curious about learning tarot and they just don’t know where to start – and I don’t blame them! There’s a lot of information (not all of it reliable) out there on the internet and so how is one to know where to begin when one isn’t already knowledgeable on the topic? It’s a real issue!
Being the helpful person I am (which I’m sure you’ve gathered by now LOL), I’ve decided to create a series of videos for curious seekers covering what *I* feel people need to know even BEFORE they buy their first tarot deck. Hence, this series of video you find below! In brief, they are:
Choosing Your First Deck (all about how to choose your first tarot deck, including art styles, important difference you should be aware of, and various themes and focuses you may want to consider)
What Makes Tarot So Magical? (Where I give away all of our big secrets!)
Tarot Myths BUSTED! (aka The Hated Eight – where I discuss the myths that make me angriest, including that you aren’t allowed to buy yourself a deck, use a second hand deck, what containers you have to use, and more!)
If you have any other questions or comments, please let me know! I hope you enjoy them – and if you do, please hit that subscribe button!
Och, okay. I have been seeing these articles about “The Dark Side” of being an empath or some nonsense like that. I admit, being an empath is not an easy gig and it can be pretty rough, especially in a society where emotions are not only unvalued but actively shamed. No doubt, it’s rough and it’s hard to figure out and learn to handle – not only do you have to figure out your emotions, but also everyone else’s around you. As I said in my last post, this usually means locking everything down and doing your best to live an emotionless life – or at least faking one. But, believe me, that isn’t the dark side.
I’m not going to talk about the REAL dark side today, though – I’m going to talk about the BRIGHT side!
Guys – being an empath can be pretty awesome! There are a LOT of advantages in this ability! Like all other psychic abilities that relate to getting information from other human beings, it’s actually a two way street – not only do you receive feelings from other people, you can also share yours with them as well. Which could definitely be bad if you were feeling depressed, but it also means that if you want to connect with a room of other people, perhaps in a team meeting, presentation, performance, or other group activity – you can do so pretty easily. It is a simple matter to become the life of the party, it’s an easy thing to bring peace to a tense situation, to relax a group of upset people, or create understanding and compassion where the otherwise wouldn’t be any.
I am a teacher and performer and I have found that being an empath is EXTREMELY helpful in creating a safe and creative atmosphere where my students are less frightened of making mistakes, feel more positive about their abilities, and genuinely find more enjoyment in the learning process. They leave my classes feeling better about themselves and their abilities and like they’ve become part of a community and made a group of trusted friends.
In my performances, I am able to evoke the emotions I want to relatively easily – not only through my use of music, movement, and emotiveness, but also through the way that I use and manipulate energy. I can draw the attention of a room by shifting my mental state alone, which can be very handy.
I am better able to express my sincerity in gratitude and appreciation because not only do I express it through my words and body language, by I also express it with my energy.
Animals are AMAZING and delightful! Very straightforward creatures. I frequently go over to friends houses and they apologize because their dogs are excitable and have no manners, typically jumping up on people and being boisterous. Instead of having to lock them up, I am able to tell my friends that I love dogs and to not worry about it and in maybe a minute, the dogs are calm and curled up at my feet. It is very easy to communicate with animals as an empath because they perceive the world entirely though instinct and emotion. Children are much the same way. I calm children, command their attention, and work with them very well – often surprising my friends who are parents since I have none of my own and am rarely around them.
This is just the tip of the iceberg in the ADVANTAGES of being an empath. So though you, as an empath, may view it as a curse, please know that it can also be a huge advantage in life and that you can use it to improve your environment, improve your life, move things forward, and help the people around you.
And I WILL get around to talking about the REAL dark side of being an empath, but I don’t want to cause hysteria. Yes, I am talking a DARK side. Talk again soon!
I had a pretty weird childhood and I grew up in a weird household, so it’s no surprise that the road I’ve taken (which is only visible where I have already passed because I am creating it as I go) is also pretty weird. And it seems that the older I get, the weirder things get, too, which, to the say the least, is pretty weird. So, keep this in mind – that I am coming from a weird place, having gotten here in a weird way, having started from a weird place.
My mother pegged me as an emapth when I was 6 or 7 years old. I was an extraordinarily sensitive child, easily overwhelmed by crowds, drawn immediately to whoever was in the most pain in the room, and relaying very odd information about people in a way that only a 6 year old could when she has no idea what she’s talking about. Mind you, my mother was recognized as a Master Rosicrucian shortly after my brother was born, when I was 3 or 4 years old, taught yoga, and read tarot cards with eerie accuracy. To say she was an expert metaphysician would be rather coy about the topic. So, I was a very, very lucky little empath child.
Very early on, before I was 10, I knew how to ground, center, shield, cleanse, and modulate energy (if you aren’t familiar with modulating energy, that is essentially controlling the flow of energy). I was already learning to astral project and clear, balance, and manipulate my own chakras. I had been taught pranayamas (yogic breathing) to both clean physical objects and spaces as well as to control my tendency to hyperventilate, had begun reading tarot cards and viking runes, programming quartz crystals, communicating with ghosts, and getting scary people to leave me alone using energy alone. I am not sharing this to brag – this is just the way it was, and it’s important that you know this about me because it explains what I am going to talk to you about shortly- but please know that this amazing education came with a price – I never learned to balance my budget, plan groceries and meals, or, even to cook for myself – and those are important!
At this point, many years have passed. My age is a trifle, I’m still a young buck at a mere 36 years old (and I am JUST figuring out how to budget things and the value of a grocery list – someday I’ll graduate to keeping track of time), but that means I have had 31 years of active empath training, practice, and conditioning -the foundations of which came from someone who was considered a master in a metaphysical fraternal order. That is one HELL of a head start!
So, the following line of thinking started when I met a fellow empath on Facebook who had just opened up. She’s a full blown adult, well out of her 20s (we’ll leave it at that) and thought she was going crazy. I told her how to do the things my mother had taught me when I was little and she had also learned similar things before our conversation and afterwards from other people. One day she told me that it just didn’t work for her – that shielding herself made things WORSE and HARDER. But grounding worked great!
I mean, the grounding made sense because humans need that regardless of how their brains work, so, yeah, duh. …But shielding made things WORSE? She said it was better when she just let the emotions flow through and around her instead of fighting them. And I got to thinking….
It had been a very long time since I shielded. Well over a decade. In fact, when I had gone into the corporate world (that was a bad idea and I don’t recommend it), I NEEDED every bit of my empath ability just to survive. I absolutely needed to know instantly if someone was about to rain down some abuse on me and if it was something that I could solve, prevent, avoid, or redirect. My boss was SO extremely abusive and such a menace to everyone around her that I could tell when I walked into the office building whether or not she had come into work that day, without seeing a single soul, just by the vibe in the building.
Of course, this wasn’t something I was doing consciously or a decision I had made – it was just something that I did instinctively, something that had happened – it was survival.
I’m sure it is no surprise to learn that I left that job when I had a nervous breakdown, which, looking back, I am grateful for. I am in a much better place now and maybe if I hadn’t had been so damned stubborn about making that job work, Universe wouldn’t have had to get so rough with me while trying to grant the very thing I had been begging for – relief, salvation, and happiness. But that’s another tale.
Since then, I have been wide open. WIDE OPEN. FREAKISHLY open. I’m not uncontrolled, I’m just open. I seem to have a thing about walls and thoughts. I only am “monitoring” or “aware” of who (or what?) I am sharing a room with or who I am thinking about. I can tell if a friend is having a bad day when they walk into the room without seeing or hearing them, regardless of the size of the room or how many people are in it. I can tell what kind of emotional state they are in when I see I have a message waiting for me on Facebook. If I am worried about them, I can “check in” with them just by thinking about them.
And this is the way I want it. This is how I want to operate. I know exactly how everyone is doing when I pass them in the grocery store, but instead of being hit in the gut by it, I let it flow off of me, through me, “like water off a duck,” just like my new empath friend was doing. Instead of having to fix it, instead of taking it on personally, I toss them a bit of energy, wish them well, and then I let it go and continue about my own business.
I don’t know what my point here is. But I’ve been wanting to share this for months now, and it’s been niggling away at me. Maybe I want to tell all the new empaths out there (when I was younger, no one knew what an empath was, and now it seems that everyone is one AND THAT’S A GOOD THING!) that it isn’t a curse, it isn’t a life sentence for some unknown crime, and it isn’t torture. You don’t have to put yourself on “lock down” forever. Yeah, figuring out what is going on can be rough and pretty awful, I’m not going to lie about that, but it isn’t going to be awful forever. It is also USEFUL. It is POWERFUL. You can do a LOT of good in the world, and not just as the world’s energetic septic tank (which seems to be what people are teaching these days), but in much more direct, immediate kind of way that you can pick and choose if it pleases you to do so and without being a freaking martyr if that isn’t your thing.
So hang in there. It’s gonna be okay. Weird, awkward, and a little messy, but it’ll be fine. You got this. We got this. It’s gonna be okay. I’ll get into some of the cool-ass benefits some other time. 😀 But keep your chin up, keep going forward, experiment, make mistakes, own that shit. It’s gonna be alright. We got this.